No matter where you are in your life, sometimes you hit a point where you want to meet new people. Whether you’re looking for a romantic partner, some new friends, or just trying to fit in with a new group of colleagues, meeting new people is nerve wracking and it’s natural to worry about being liked. Luckily, we’ve put together these simple tips for how you can turn yourself into an attractive presence to have around.
- Have exciting hobbies
Though you should never push yourself to do something completely outside your comfort zone just for the sake of it, a great way to make yourself more attractive is to be interested in something unusual or interesting that makes people want to know more about you. This can be totally different depending on who you are and the kind of people you are friends with – for example, Henry Cavill is very into Warhammer, which many consider incredibly niche and nerdy, but certainly makes it apparent that there is more to the actor than meets the eye. So whether that means going out and learning to make sushi or buying yourself a stunt scooter, go and develop your interests.
- Develop your conversation
Not everyone is born to be a conversationalist, but it is important to have at least basic conversational skills to ensure that you can hold your own socially and enjoy getting to meet new people rather than finding it an ordeal. Pick a few common topics – books or films, for example – and make sure you have a few comments and questions to offer on those topics. You’ll find your interactions at work dos and parties get a lot easier! Additionally, if people know you are easy to talk to, this makes you a much more attractive person to be around.
- Be willing to put yourself out there
Though everyone is different and there’s nothing wrong with being an introvert, it’s important not to let your quiet tendencies get in the way of your willingness to try new things and meet new people. Even if that new thing is something quiet like going to a poetry reading, the willingness to be adventurous or learn new things is a quality that makes people happy to engage with you and which enables you to become a part of your important people’s lives.
- Know what you want out of life
Knowing your goals is one of the best ways to make yourself attractive to those around you. While having your life together in the moment is important, people also like to understand where you are headed with your life and see that you have a little drive and ambition, and having clear goals is a great way to display that. Additionally, having goals set for your future shows that you have a strong sense of yourself and what you want your life to look like, which helps you to attract the kind of people you will be compatible with and be able to share your life with successfully.
- Look after yourself
While physical health is indeed important and can improve your attractiveness, looking after yourself in general means so much more than that. Ensuring you have a handle not only on your physical health, but your mental and financial wellbeing as well as ensuring you know where you stand in terms of your priorities and goals, all adds to how attractive a person is as a friend, partner or colleague. Not only does it enhance your own life but additionally improves your impression of reliability, confidence, and authority, making you a desirable person to have around.
Being an attractive person is about so much more than just being physically attractive – and developing these traits will help enormously!